I was told we should always try to make the other person seem right and gently lead them into your views of truth by them undergoing self discovery with you leading them, not dictating to them, otherwise we have I am right you are wrong battles of pride.
However notice when a powerful leader came to Jesus at night to enter a discussion, Jesus cuts him off immediately
Joh 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, "affirming faith" , "affirming faith", I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.
Jesus immediately challenges the Jews concept of faith with a startling theme : born again.
Joh 3:4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother's womb, and be born?
The man see literal things as literal. SO how can a man be born again, after the physical is already born.
Joh 3:5 Jesus answered, "affirming faith" , "affirming faith", I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.
6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the "Medium" is "medium".
7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again.
8 The wind bloweth where it listeth, and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it cometh, and whither it goeth: so is every one that is born of the "Medium".
Notice the KJV makes "capital S and small s over the fuzzy word spirit/Spirit" which is incorrect. A better rendering of this word for all context is medium, and the Medium when referring to the Grand Medium or function of the HS.
Wind is a medium affect. it is something no from matter but is manifest in matter as media. When hot media exists close to cold media, the air carries the energy difference as "wind" a medium affect.
But the point Jesus is making "wind" is still real even though the affect is not from matter directly.
SO can you be born again through a medium, especially if the medium is divine? The answer is what part of the first borning process needs to be reborn?
The DNA genes, in my two pennies, records everything about you, your thoughts, your actions and and your intentions. So this is what causes you to become you as a character. Some of this information sits over the inherited genes as epi-genetic potential that controls the moral fabric of you being you.
SO in this respect, the Divinity functions of God do reborn you over again, bit by bit until you are reborn into the nature of Divinity without dysfunction.
And what does Jesus do with others who resist coming to Him as potential children of God?
Mt 15:14 Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.
Many it seems cannot be made into one accord with you, so you leave them alone.
Shalom