Dressing and Modesty in women

[Alice Kwenya]

Is it okay for a lady to put on a loose trouser...Will we term this as modest?
What does the word say concerning modesty among women?

 

[Alice Kwenya]

Deuteronomy 22:5 KJV
The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.
Daniel 3:21
So these men, wearing their robes, trousers, turbans and other clothes, were bound and thrown into the blazing furnace.
The insistance on modest dressing is because dressing can be used to communicate one’s intentions
Proverbs 7:10 ESV
And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart.
Avoid the First Downward Step—When one commandment of the Decalogue is broken, the downward steps are almost certain. When once the barriers of female modesty are removed, the basest licentiousness does not appear exceeding sinful. Alas, what terrible results of woman's influence for evil may be witnessed in the world today! Through the allurements of “strange women,” thousands are incarcerated in prison cells, many take their own lives, and many cut short the lives of others. How true the words of Inspiration, “Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.” . AH 58.2-AH 58.3

Simplicity of dress will make a sensible woman appear to the best advantage. We judge of a person's character by the style of dress worn. A modest, godly woman will dress modestly. A refined taste, a cultivated mind, will be revealed in the choice of a simple, appropriate attire. The young women who break away from the slavery of fashion will be ornaments to society. The one who is simple and unpretending in her dress and in her manners shows that she understands that a true woman is characterized by moral worth. How charming, how interesting, is simplicity in dress, which in comeliness can be compared with the flowers of the field.—The Review and Herald, November 17, 1904. . MYP 353.2

 

[Chief]

Deuteronomy 22:5 KJV
The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.
Daniel 3:21
So these men, wearing their robes, trousers, turbans and other clothes, were bound and thrown into the blazing furnace.
The insistance on modest dressing is because dressing can be used to communicate one’s intentions
Proverbs 7:10 ESV
And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart.
Avoid the First Downward Step—When one commandment of the Decalogue is broken, the downward steps are almost certain. When once the barriers of female modesty are removed, the basest licentiousness does not appear exceeding sinful. Alas, what terrible results of woman's influence for evil may be witnessed in the world today! Through the allurements of “strange women,” thousands are incarcerated in prison cells, many take their own lives, and many cut short the lives of others. How true the words of Inspiration, “Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.” . AH 58.2-AH 58.3

Simplicity of dress will make a sensible woman appear to the best advantage. We judge of a person's character by the style of dress worn. A modest, godly woman will dress modestly. A refined taste, a cultivated mind, will be revealed in the choice of a simple, appropriate attire. The young women who break away from the slavery of fashion will be ornaments to society. The one who is simple and unpretending in her dress and in her manners shows that she understands that a true woman is characterized by moral worth. How charming, how interesting, is simplicity in dress, which in comeliness can be compared with the flowers of the field.—The Review and Herald, November 17, 1904. . MYP 353.2

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[Chief]

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When you hear “modesty,” do you picture outdated fashion rules or a quiet, unassuming personality? Think again. Modesty, as the Bible teaches, is a vibrant, heart-deep quality that shapes how we live, dress, and interact with the world. It’s not about hiding in the shadows—it’s about shining with humility, purpose, and love for God.

In this thread starter, we’ll explore what the Bible really says about modesty, why it’s a cornerstone of Christian living, and how Seventh-day Adventists approach this timeless virtue.

What Is Modesty? ​

Merriam-Webster defines modesty as “the quality of not being too proud or confident” and “propriety in dress, speech, or conduct.” But in Christian circles, discussions about modesty often zero in on wardrobe choices—especially for women.

Here’s the twist: modesty starts in the heart. It’s about humility, recognizing our equal worth before God, and ensuring our actions and appearance uplift others rather than inflate our egos. It’s balance—celebrating our God-given gifts without overshadowing others.


Modesty also means adapting to our context. What’s “appropriate” varies across cultures, but Christians anchor their choices in biblical principles, not passing trends.

What Does the Bible Say About Modesty?​

Scripture paints modesty as a reflection of inner grace. Let’s break it down:

New Testament Wisdom​

Paul’s advice to Timothy is often quoted:


Why focus on women? In Paul’s day, flashy attire signaled wealth and status, breeding division. His message? Outward beauty fades; godly character lasts. Peter echoes this:


But modesty isn’t just for women. The Greek word kosmios (translated as “modest” for women) also describes the “good behavior” expected of male church leaders (1 Timothy 3:2).

Old Testament Examples​

• Saul: Initially humble, questioning why he was chosen as king (1 Samuel 9:21).
• Queen Vashti: Refused to parade her beauty before drunken nobles, prioritizing dignity over status (Esther 1:11-12).
• Elihu: Showed respect by waiting his turn to speak, valuing others’ voices (Job 32:4-7).

Even Noah’s sons demonstrated modesty by covering their father’s nakedness—avoiding shame and gossip (Genesis 9:20-29).

Does God Care About Modesty?​

Scripture shows God consistently choosing the humble over the proud:

• Gideon, the “least” in his family (Judges 6:15).
• David, the shepherd boy turned king (1 Samuel 16:7).
• Paul, who called himself “the least of the apostles” (1 Corinthians 15:9).

Modesty matters because it shifts our focus from self to God. As Peter writes, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble” (1 Peter 5:5). When we acknowledge that every gift comes from Him, we’re freed to serve others joyfully.

Imagine: You’re a star athlete. Modesty reminds you that your talent, health, and opportunities are God’s gifts. Instead of basking in glory, you mentor others or support underprivileged kids. That’s humility in action!

Why Modesty Matters Today​

In a world obsessed with self-promotion, modesty is countercultural—and transformative. Here’s why:

1. Focus on What Lasts: Inner character > fleeting beauty.
2. Builds Authentic Relationships: Mutual respect > shallow admiration.
3. Fosters Gratitude: Recognizing God’s hand in our lives fuels contentment.
4. Strengthens Faith: Humility opens doors for God to work through us.

How Adventists Practice Modesty​

Seventh-day Adventists view modesty as holistic—applying to dress, speech, and lifestyle. While there’s no strict rulebook, these principles guide us:

Dressing with Purpose​

• Neatness & Balance: Avoid extremes (overdressed/underdressed). Opt for quality over flashy brands.
• Health Matters: Choose comfortable, breathable fabrics; avoid restrictive styles.
• Decency First: Dress to honor your body as a “temple of the Holy Spirit” (1 Corinthians 6:19).

Living with Integrity​

• Behavior: Lead with kindness, not self-promotion.
• Conduct: Respect cultural norms without compromising faith.
• Lifestyle: Reject materialism; embrace simplicity and generosity.

A Letter from God to the World​

Paul called believers “letters... known and read by everyone” (2 Corinthians 3:2). Modesty is our chance to write a story that points to God’s grace. It’s not about perfection—it’s about progress.

As Jesus said, “Let your light shine so others see your good works and glorify God” (Matthew 5:16). Modesty is that light: humble, authentic, and radiant.

How do you practice modesty in daily life? Share your thoughts below!